Hey guys, today I’m going to deal with the men but ladies you’re welcome too…  once more, shout out to the gentlemen out there who are playing their role very well by trying their best to impress their ladies. To those single men who gives great advice to their married, engaged, dating and single friends as themselves, I know that they will certain find ‘HER’ pretty soon. Trust me <winks*>. Now, I know you’ll be asking how do I do that? Is there anyone worth the time out there? Is there any special one among the rest? Your questions are so damn right, but the damn true is this; “If she’s amazing, she won’t be easy. If she’s easy, she won’t be amazing. If she’s worth it, you won’t give up. If you give up, you’re not worthy… The truth is that everybody is going to hurt you; You just got to find the ones worth suffering for”. –Bob Marley. That’s the point, so don’t be a jerk because someone who doesn’t recognize your worth hurt you. You’ve got to keep searching for ‘HER’, because she is a jewel and jewels are rare and hard to find. Read More to help you know what a woman actually need… So if you want to find her, you’ve got to dig in the right place (for singles and searching). And if you already found her, you’ve got to treat her right. Remember that a woman can be an angel or a devil depending on the way you treat her which depends on who you want to see; either the angel or the devil. She is human just like everyone else, so treat her like one and as the queen she is (for the married and engaged).


Now let’s say You met or saw this amazing girl. Who’s beautiful, funny, intelligent, and doesn’t seem to be out-of-her-mind, like crazy. Obviously you want her to be into you, too. Nothing is worse than getting shoved into the friend zone or getting so nervous to impress her which will you scare her away indefinitely.

To make sure this doesn’t happen, I gathered from my own perspective few surefire ways to nudge things along to a second date in order to figure out what works (and what doesn’t) when it comes to catching her attention. Here are some few tipsy on how to get to ‘HER’, especially for the singles…

  • Gather the Courage and Confident:

    Before you walk up to her, you need to gather your courage and not showing how nervous you are. So as you walk up to her (or with her), slow down your pace and slightly exaggerate your shoulder movements, this will make you look relaxed and in control, that’s where confidence comes in play, “She will read ‘confidence’ and confidence is always attractive to HER”. Remember to “Do this while maintaining an eye contact and smiling; and this will make it easier to catch her attention.” And as a man always make sure you stand tall and keep the shoulder action subtle. If you saunter too much she’ll either think you’re injured or something creeper will approach, and by so doing this, remember to dial down your walking speed.

  •    Tactfully talk up yourself:

When you do something like; you speak a foreign language, surf, or play guitar, and you definitely want her to know you, I want you to know “Skills or talents are super sexy, and highlighting them makes you appear more dynamic to her,” The trick is sliding them into conversation naturally, so it doesn’t come off awkwardly—or like you’re bragging. Wait for the right opening, and slip it in nonchalantly. She will notice, because women like a man that does things, not just a thinker but also a doer. So feel free to talk about yourself but not as a topic or in a bragging state, let it flow and also don’t be calculative, she will know, I promise you that, unless she isn’t a smart one.

  •  Speak like a man:

To be clear, I am not telling you to yell at her. But, because you want to convey outgoing confidence, that won’t happen if you talk in a soft, muffled, shaky way. Practice talking twice as loud as you think you want to be when you’re with her by doing the same when you’re out with your buddies in order to help you make sure your voice carries a strong and a sure voice. And since nerves can ruin your efforts and make you sound choppy or high-pitched, I advise you to take some slow, deep breaths before you head out on your date.  “It will help to relax you and automatically lower the pitch of your voice. Breathe in through your nose for a count of five and exhale through your mouth for a count of five. You should feel your abs move in and out. Repeat 10 times (This is to help you get yourself together).


  •  Give her your full attention:

Now, give her the 100% of your attention. When you’re with her, try to make her feel like she’s the only person in the room. “Even if dishes are breaking and good looking waitresses are walking by, keep your eyes fixed on her,” pay close attention to what she’s telling you and try to ask follow-up questions to show you’re interested in the conversation. Make it lively, even when she’s slacking behind. She’ll feel appreciated, plus maintain an eye contact, this work double duty, making her feel more bonded with you. Make her feel she’s worth it all… not part or half of it, and you will see her falling for you, because no matter how hard a woman is, she adores a man that gives her his full attention and appreciates her little efforts. You must know women are real attention seekers and appreciation suckers; it’s their nature so don’t blame them for that.


  • Make Her Laugh by teasing her:

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Although your first instinct may be to hold back and watch what you say as you get to know her, but that can backfire and make you appear dull, thereby making the atmosphere less fun. So don’t be afraid to disagree with her over some certain things, instead lightheartedly tease her about her taste in music and about other little-little things that would make her smile. Back-and-forth bantering may actually help you stump out any first date tension. Remember you have to turn the conversation into something playful and flirtatious, because when she’s laughing and having fun in a conversation, she’ll feel much more relaxed and will likely be more attracted to you.


  • Take her out for a meal:

Take her out either for lunch or dinner. Recommend and try to convince her to try out a spiced-up entrée, then order a hot dipping sauce with an appetizer that you two can share, because this will get her pulse racing, especially when you really want to make it fun and lively, then you really should take her out for spicy food. Dishes with a kick, such as those with curry or hot peppers, increases blood flow, as she heats up, she will then associate the rush from the food with spending time with you. There’s also something else that ought to be at play before she even takes the first bite, that’s the eye contact. Always maintain an eye contact because it keeps the connection produced by the spicy food in flow, “Spicy foods spark feelings of danger, and a slight sense of fear can give her a small shot of adrenaline and build excitement.”  Keep that in mind.

  •    Make fun of yourself:

Talk about your awkward moments in your life like; how you stumbled through the landing, your crazy moments in school or work, just make a joke about yourself in petty things not serious issues of life because women love to laugh and always create a sense of humor at the top of their list, so you’ve got to show her that you’re an easy going type by telling her a story that highlights a goofy or clumsy moment. “Stories with slight self-deprecation show her that you’re comfortable in your own skin and resilient enough to pull out of problematic scenarios with a positive attitude. So don’t carry yourself so-high, if not she will think that you are perfect and don’t need anyone else in your life which is a bad signal to display. Be free and yourself when with her, that will make her do the same with you… Don’t talk bad about yourself and always be positive and bright (especially Ladies).


After this part of 7ways to get her, then you start show her that you really want her to stay by calling her up, checking on her, do things with her like; seeing a movie, hangout together (it mustn’t be a date), talk her up; this time about herself not yourself… this will create a sense of humor which say “He is Caring”. Note that money isn’t everything but is sure something. Buy her little-little gifts, try to impress her but don’t make it a homework, just make it a duty because you care about her. Make her know that; don’t be shy of your feelings for her.


Advice: If you are going after a girl for sex, that makes you a jerk! And I promise a smart, beautiful and intelligent woman won’t fall for you. So honey, get your motives pure and straight in order to get a positive result. Woman are not things you can buy with money… we are priceless and so is our love, expect for the Judas which can be bought with money… You’ve got to treat your woman right for your own good…We are Priceless Not Expensive!!!

Happy Reading! 

And don’t forget to say what you think about this process!!!

Cindy pinky



Published by Cindy

I'M CYNTHIA A Poet, Blogger, Social media marketer and Photographer dedicated to Inspire and Motivate you through the journey of life.

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